Today was a bit of a rough day, and I spent some a lot of time being angry. I knew that I needed to vent to a supportive friend before I exploded with anxiety. After telling my friend about the situation, they pointed out to me that I was placing a lot of responsibility on myself for what was happening, and that I should take a step back and not take things personally.
I believe that those of us who struggle with anxiety take things personally frequently. Perhaps we overhear a vague comment that a co-worker makes, and we take it as something aimed at us. We hear our boss lecture colleagues, and we feel it is directed at us. Someone snaps at us when they have had a rough day, and we think they hate us. I know my anxiety makes me a people pleaser so I struggle whenever someone is upset.
I believe we need to remember that all the problems in the world are NOT our fault! It is our job to take responsibility for our actions, but we do not need to take on the cares and worries of those around us. By doing that we are only creating more anxiety for ourselves, and recreating an endless cycle of stress.
Remember, do not take on more burdens than you need. It is not your job to fix the world. 🙂 Relax and release your stress! You deserve a break!
I do wish what you’re saying was as easy as it sounds! I definitely relate, sufferers of anxiety seem to automatically think every negative comment is about them, and we take it upon ourselves to “fix” everything! If you’ve got suggestions on how to let things go more easily, I’m all ears! 🙂
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Lol i actually don’t have suggestions! I need some myself! I was trying to make myself feel better by writing a positive post. Let me know if you think of any 😊
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Ha! Sure will. 😉
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I would definitely appreciate some ideas as well! Sometimes letting go seems impossible. Anyone? I usually just try and remind myself that my mind is playing tricks on me and think of other meanings behind what the person is saying. If that doesn’t work, I just try to block out the thoughts completely by listening to music or exercising. The latter doesn’t really work out that well most of the time though, as the thoughts tend to come back.
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I have been right there too!! It is hard and sometimes i cant let it go.
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My husband always tells me that it’s impossible to be General Manager of the Universe. I hope you’re feeling better and are able to “let go” and let things work themselves out.
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Thats a great saying!
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