My husband and I are nearing the point in our lives were we are wanting to truly consider becoming parents, and I don’t mean to our dogs. Real human beings. Or perhaps just a singular being. There are lots of unknown questions and fears we both have in regards to this area because we want to be sure we are ready and prepared when the little fellow arrives. I know parenthood is not something that can be planned for 100%, but since I struggle with anxiety I want to be proactive.
My biggest fear about being a parent is that my anxiety will get in the way of me being able to be a good parent. Logically in my mind I know I will be a good mother, since I “raise” my students well at school. However, the anxious part of my brain tells me that I will be a mess! To fight back my own anxiety, I am going to arm myself with knowledge and support from friends and family. I want to be open about the struggles and the triumphs as my husband and I begin to map out this journey.
I wanted to share this with you because you have all be so supportive of my anxious conquerings and so many of you have given me such wonderful advice! Thank you for helping me win this battle!
The Persistent Platypus 
I can relate to this post! I too have considered becoming a parent, yet am concerned with the outcome of this decision. I have countless decisions and many people that tell me that I would be a good mom, yet how do you really know?
LikeLiked by 2 people
Yes! I am glad i am not the only one who struggles with these questions! People tell me I will be a good mom also and i think the same thing you do. I think though, that since we are already trying to be good parents, that that indicates we will be good. Does that make sense? Lol
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yea majes perfect sense. Although as a mental health therapist I see many people that let the pitfalls of life out on thier children. They let their careers consume the majority of thier time. And worst many people abuse thier children because they don’t know how to control themselves. I would like to believe that i will be successful as a parent, yet also know that many of the parents I mentioned had the same hope to be a good parent. Never the less, somwone can be a good parent and do “everything right” and thier kid still messes up and goes down the wrong path. I fuess we’ll never know until we get there. Best if luck.
LikeLiked by 1 person
That is true too!
LikeLike
The fact that you are even thinking this much about it means you will be a better parent than many. You’ll be great. Worrying is part of the package but it doesnt need to consume you.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Awwww thank you!! 🙂 that means a lot!
LikeLike
Being a parent is awesome and amazing, overwhelming and can be scary. From my own experience, The anxiety can take worries into overtime, yet at the same time, it has allowed me to have to push my own anxiety to the side sometimes in order to do the best for them. Enjoy the ride! It is so worth it!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yay! I am looking forward to it!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Parenthood is the end goal of my healing journey too, and a major concern for me is how my illness and anxiety would not allow me to fully live out my parenting ideals, to be the kind of mom i have always wanted to be since i met my boyfriend. I’m terrified, but also have noticed, as you have, that the more i research and explore my fears, and the more they are discussed out loud the less power they have over me. And the more i know being a mother is one thing that chronic pain can’t take away from my dreams for the future.
Good for you guys, I’m so excited for you to take this journey!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Yes is so true that the more i talk about it, the less power it has!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Since I’ve become a father, I’ve realized something very important. You never become a professional parent until the moment your child leaves for college. That’s why grandparenting looks so damn easy.
LikeLiked by 1 person
LOL!
LikeLike
Hey there, I struggle with anxiety and a lot of the similar questions. Although I try to remember that I can only do my best and it has pointed out to me there is a “good” side to my anxiety. I feel like if I didn’t struggle with anxiety I wouldn’t be so proactive, I wouldn’t always be questioning myself so hard if I was doing the right thing. Although it is so intense and feels so beyond control and it gets in the way but I think it also makes me keep striving to be better. The fact that you are feeling anxious before the situation comes about shows how important it is to you do be a great mom. I know you will do great.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Aww thank you so much! I hope thats what it means lol
LikeLike
I have the exact same feeling. I always think i can barely look after myself let alone a small being who is entirely in my care, then theres the argument because i have someone who needs me i may become stronger and less anxious. Times ticking though and then comes the anxiety that i have left it too late.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I do not think it is ever too late
LikeLiked by 1 person
I wish you and your husband all the best. I too, while not planning to have children any time soon, worry that my anxiety would interfere with my parenting. However, as you mentioned, you feel that you are a good teacher and having confidence can make all the difference. I don’t know you, but just from reading your blog, you seem like you’re a very considerate person!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Aww well thank you so much!!
LikeLike
Good luck!
LikeLiked by 1 person
🙂
LikeLike