We have all been hurt by someone. We have all felt the heart crushing pain of the dissipation of trust. I know it is easy to hold on to that hurt and let it consume. Not to let go of it because it reminds us what happens when we open our hearts and let someone in.
I am here to tell you that you do not have to carry that pain with you. You do not have to continue to build your walls thicker and thicker until no more feelings can penetrate you. You can let go. Forgive. When you have held onto resentment and anger for so long it is terrifying to let it go, but it is worth it. Anger is a heavy burden to carry. But you can choose to let it go. It will take time to forgive and be ride of those emotions and walls, but once you find yourself on the other side, you will feel brand new!
Today the act of forgiveness was brought to my attention while I was reading my bible study. Over the years, I have always struggled with letting go of grudges completely. I said that I forgave someone, but when it came to the bitter feelings inside, those didn’t always go away. However, as I am reflecting on my study I am realizing that forgiveness does not mean that we necessarily forget what happened or how it made us feel. What I am coming to understand is that forgiveness is allowing ourselves to no longer be angry about what happened in spite of it all. When we harbor anger and resentment, we are not hurting the other party involved. We are only hurting ourselves. How can we live a life of positivity and joy if our hearts and minds are full of revenge or bitterness. Yes, horrible things happen to wonderful people, and that is wrong. But it is not your fault. Unforgiven emotions only continue to hurt us. The best way to get back at someone is finding peace in ourselves and letting go of hurt. Finding a way to live a life full of positivity and love.
It is difficult to forgive. I am still learning how, but this year I am going to work on finding a way to forgive those who have wronged me so that I can be at peace!