After going through the Foster Care orientation training last night, my husband and I are both in agreeance that God is leading us to foster/adopt (which is incredibly exciting). Now, the next question we need to discuss is what we are going to do about having our own child. We agree that we want to have our own baby and adopt, however, we need to decide which comes first. Biological or adoption?
Originally, we were going to begin trying to get pregnant in March, but if we foster/adopt first then we need to push that back. But if we do biological first, then maybe we should start trying earlier?
These are the questions my husband and I are debating. They are huge, life-changing questions and we do not want to make a decision lightly. Thank you for all your prayers and words of wisdom. If you have any comments, please let me know!
I don’t want to sound like a broken record, but truly, all I can think about right now is getting licenses as a foster family and getting our child placement. I was thinking about how natural it all feels, and I realized that foster/adopting is something that I have always wanted to do. When I was a freshman and sophomore in high school I went down to Mexico and worked in an orphanage for a week. That experience truly changed my view on children, because I saw such a lack loving parents first hand. Ever since then I always knew in my heart I wanted to help kids who were without parents.
Like I mentioned in a previous post, it almost feels surreal now that I am actually beginning the licensing process, because it always felt like a distant dream. However, my husband is 100% on board and he supports my dream.
I am feeling incredibly blessed.
Today, my husband and I had our first chat with the foster care agency we are working with and had our screening. We were asked information about our background, and preferences with the children we would be willing to take into our home. We go to our orientation on Thursday evening and we will have many of our questions answered. After the orientation we will be working on getting all of our paper work submitted, and then go through 30 hours of training.
It was all very exciting to actually begin the process, especially since fostering/adopting a child is something that I have wanted to do for years. It feel surreal that my husband is on board and 100% invested as well. I know that it is not going to be an easy process by any stretch of the imagination. I understand (to the best of my limited experience) that there will be difficult times and heartbreak. However, on the flip side, I know that this is something that God has placed on our hearts and all the pain will be worth it.
I will continue to keep you all updated as we get further into the process and any other thoughts or questions that I need help with!
Thanks for all your love and support!
Over the last year my husband and I have been thinking about foster care/adoption and how it would fit into our family dynamic. We have prayed a lot about it and have finally come to the discussion that we want to go forward with becoming Foster Parents! It is very exciting and terrifying at the same time.
Many times when we have discussed adoption, we have done so in hypotheticals, so it was never real. However, today we sat down and honestly discussed our feelings towards fostering, and we were both on the same page. We both are invested 100%.
We are in the beginning stages of planing, but I am looking forward to learning more about the process and finding out what God has in store for our future.
Do any of you have experiences with foster care? Please share your comments with me!
So over the last few weeks I have been crazy with the baby bug! It’s crazy, because I never thought I would catch it. Being 29 years old and never feeling the pull towards children, I never thought I would develop maternal instincts. It is kind of exciting and scary all at the same time to feel the urge to be a mother. I have a lot of fear about being pregnant because I am afraid of what it could possibly do to my anxiety. I do not want my anxiety to be a raging beast while I would be pregnant. Also, considering some of my anxiousness is caused from the fear of being sick (very annoying) I think having morning sickness would really push my anxiety over the edge. I have been working on sorting through these fears and trying to rationalize them. I do not want to miss out on the opportunity of being a mother just because I am anxious about the process of having the child.
I would also be completely open to adopting a baby. As a teacher I see so many amazing kids being unloved at home and it breaks my heart I already feel as if I am a mother to all of them since I play multiple roles during the day to these kids. Teacher, mother, nurse, and counselor. I would love to give a child who desperately needs a stable home a spoiled upbringing. I believe every child should be spoiled 🙂 (but not to the point where they are bratty of course! Boundaries are healthy) The calling to adopt has really been heavy on my heart.
I am not sure what path we will decide on, but I am looking forward to what God has in store for us. 🙂